Hello everyone! Hope you all are doing well. I am really very sorry for the late update. I know none of the apologies will serve the purpose, but still a sincere sorry to all! Anyways let bygones be bygones, let us discuss a new topic today, the topic with which I may sound melodramatic to you, but believe me this very topic has changed the basis of our society; from simple sombre to a materialistic extravagant one!!!
Decades ago, the wedding used to be such a simple and sober affair. All the family members together would take care of all arrangements; from clothes, ornaments, gift items to even decorating the home. Wedding and all associated events used to take place in home as it was considered a blessing if the bride gets married in her own house. Ladies of the family did haldi and mehandi. Even the wedding meal was made by family members. Each occasion had such a personal touch!! No gala events, no fanfare, just pure wedding rituals. But as time passed this scenario changed. As they say, "Change is the only thing which os constant", even the wedding scenarios have witnessed a paradigm shift; a holistic shift from simplicity to fanfare!!
Now-a-days, wedding is no more a personal affair, it is a platform to showcase your economic stature in society. Event managers have taken the place of family members. A profit generating organization decides how the wedding of two people take place. No family members or traditional rituals involved. Even the rituals have become commercialized. Pre- wedding shoots have become an essential part of this gala platter, the video of which is later shared on social media platforms to gain publicity for the event managers. Each and every event of the wedding is thematized and loads of money is spent on the conceptualization and execution of it. A father earns hard his entire life to give a good life to his kids and here we are wasting his hard earned pennies on events which ruin the essence of the rituals. This extravaganza will be forgotten very soon once another grandeur event takes place! But the money spent is lost for ever!! Dont you guys that all this pomp and pageantry is not necessary for any wedding.
Our Indian rituals are so pure and serene that they themselves thematize any wedding. If our rituals are self reliant then why do we depend on this external materialism to form a part of our marriages?? Why waste money on this when it is not necessary! You keep 150 items in a reception but people eat only 30-40 items, rest all are wasted. Why waste your father's hard earned money on this fanfare? There are parents who are not that well off but just to be a part of this rat race they have to sometimes sacrifice even a part of themselves and run the race or else they will be outcasted.
We are the future of our country. It is we who will take the country on a brighter path. Its high time we take corrective measures and end this circus. What is the need of all this. Let us celebrate the spirit of wedding to its essence understanding the meaning of each ritual. Parents who have extra money, please spend it on the wedding of people who are underprivileged. A grand wedding is just a luxury and not a necessity!!
If I can bring change in mindset of even one person, then the whole idea of this article will be served. So please think about it!!!
Loads of love,
Megha
